naunie's Cancer Blog
August 26, 2008
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Well this past week my brother and sister in law had their second baby girl which was a wonderful occasion!
My mom has taken a dramatic turn for the worse. We have started home hospice care. They are very helpful but boy is it overwhelming! The nurse is very nice and the social worker was too. My mom is very confused and not herself at all. She is so weak that she cannot do things that adults do. It breaks my heart. We have gotten a hospital bed to put downstairs which is great bc stairs are not happening. Eating and drinking are minimal as well as talking.
I love her with all of my heart but I pray that God will take her. I will never “get” this whole disease and am still mad at times. But I know that it is time. Please think of my mom and pray that she goes peacefully and quickly. I love her so very much.
Thanks for your support -
Naunie – I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I am thinking of you and your family. Hang in there.
I’m so sorry.
We too are going through this process with our Mom. She is 56, mom of two, grandma of 5 under age 8. My sister & I did this with our Dad when he was 45 too. Difference was we were distanced by physical location & we had no children. It really does suck. Honestly, I hate that word, but it fits cancer.
I will pray for peace for your Mom and for you and your family as you cope. Time does heal, faith sustains and love reigns.
Having gone through this with my Father in law last February, I know how daunting the tasks are. Hospice is wonderful, but having to bring them in, is in itself, a sign that life is winding down.
I will keep all of you in prayer as this is both a special and a heart wrenching time. may you find peace.
God’s blessings on you all
Mac
Dear Naunie; There are no words for times like this. It is life that happens around us, and we do and try our best to see it through, no matter how painful it becomes. We are not given all the skills or strength, to watch our loved ones grow weaker and fade into the hands of god. No matter how hard we try to brush back the tears, gather energy to greet the next person at the door it feels like a walking dream, concious and unconcious streams of emotions well up inside, we want to scream, but we are calm, we want to hold on but know in our hearts it’s time to let go even when we don’t want to. We are grateful for the caring from the hospice group, but we are also angry and that is what we are plagued with. Anger and love at the same time. I too have home cared my parents through this and there is no one way to do it. Hold on to each other, and be proud you have the love in that room for it passes us by but a few times in life. I suppose it is God’s wish that we too have to suffer these moments to be grateful we had so many other ones that gave us joy. Prayers to you and your entire family and may God give your Mom the peace she deserves. Weezie
Your family is in my prayers.
XOXONaunie,
I am so sorry for you and your family. Glad to hear that you will keep her home. I truly believe that helps (her and you.) I went through this with both my grandma and my father and I must say that there is peace in knowing that you have gone to all limits to make them comfortable. Everything that hospice told me would happen did happen. There will be people waiting for her…she will not go alone, and you will not be alone either, for she will always be with you. Take care and know that we are all thinking of your family!
Naunie,
What can I say but how sad and sorry I am. I along with you will pray for a peaceful end. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family
Cheryl